I Wish

My birthday is past and Christmas is a long time away so what am I wishing for?

I am wishing for time…. not my time, but yours!

Now I know you are busy and time means money and the song tells us –

Yes, money makes the world go around, the world go around etc.

But what good is money if you kill yourself working?

What good is money if you have no one to share it with?

Alice at My Wintersong pulled up at a stop light, it was a reminder that we all need to pause and see real life or smell the roses. Then I came to my Toyboy Rowan with a similar message. It made me think…

There was nobody more hard working than my Jack. He was busy from the minute he opened his eyes in the morning until he lay down in bed at night. I had to talk to him! He was retired. It was time to take things a little easier and enjoy life. I didn’t want to look across the table some day and wonder who the strange man was. I wanted to spend time with him after all that was why we had married. We made changes, we had a day out each week, sometimes it was walking on a seashore or in woodland, chatting away to each other or at other times walking hand-in-hand enclosed in companionable silence.

I no longer have my man across the table or to hold my hand, but I do have wonderful loving memories of the time we spent TOGETHER!

I am glad we made that effort.

If you love someone, give them the most precious gift you have – TIME

As a friend of mine says ‘None of us are promised tomorrow!’ So start sharing now.

In memory of Jack who died April 1998 (not today)


17 thoughts on “I Wish

  1. You are so wise~ my hubby still works to keep the wolf from the door(old as he is) and we keep planning for his retirement, maybe we should re-think!!

  2. Well said! I try to spend as much time as I can with my best friend – my girlfriend. We’re together 7 and a half years and I love her more and more each day. I’d rather spend time with her than anyone else, and I try to whenever it’s possible.

  3. Grannymar

    I wish…

    life had been kinder to you… (((hugs)))

    Your wisdom knows no bounds. Thank you for giving me plenty of food for thought on this one. 🙂

  4. I reckon a lot more people than realize it suffer from some form of obsessive compulsive disorder that results in peoples real priorities getting distorted.

    I’m suffering right now, from another form of disorder, a lack of caffeine. I reckon now, it’s time for coffee.

    Thanks for ‘thought for the day’ 🙂

  5. I think I should sell my Soapbox!

    Growing up I saw several relations and friends full of ‘Ifs and When’s’, they lived so far in the future they forgot about living the day. Regrets are a waste of time & energy. If change is needed DO IT NOW.

  6. I know a man retired for years who still busily fills his day with one obsessive activity after another – cutting out film reviews, tidying his map collection etc. His wife despairs of him and is forever telling him to slow down and relax. Sometimes she has to go out for the day because his busyness is driving her nuts. Some people are terrified of just sitting back and savouring life (and their loved ones).

  7. Grannymar,

    The usual retirement age here in America is 65. My husband was 2 or 3 years past that age and was still working. He couldn’t imagine that we could live on our retirement income and savings. He just continued to work.

    One day I took a piece of paper and pen and wrote down the amount of his company pension. To that I added the amount we would get from the government in the form of Social Security.Then, because I had worked after our kids were raised, I was also entitled to Social Security.

    As he read the evening paper I walked over to his chair and presented him with the list of our assets and the estimated pension and SS. He was surprised!

    I looked at him and said,” If you go to work tomorrow you are going because you WANT to, not because you HAVE to.”

    One week later he wrote the date of his retirement on the office calendar and we have been happily retired ever since…..

    It’s great fun being able to go out to lunch or sleep late or take a trip…..

  8. The sad part of it all, GM, is that people live and live for the retirement date. They will then relax and have fun. I’ve seen far, far too many never get to see that magical date because, hello!, there are no guarantees on any of it. Like you say the time is now. I am so glad you had that time.
    My mother’s anniversary is this month too and I am so glad I quit the job and took the little girls with the blessing of their understanding father and went back to Ireland to spend some months with her before she passed….
    The time is now.

  9. Yes, I know too many people who die before they get to that point. A neighbor of ours, 66, died last week. He was still working almost full time.

  10. I couldn’t agree more. My Sunday’s are sacrosanct for that reason. They’re days to relax, catchup with friends and Sunday dinner is family time. It’s a time out day even if I have to bust a gut on Saturdays to get the chores done so that Sunday is free.. I work with people who are facing retirement . . .some are terrified that they won’t have anything to do when their work life stops . . that strikes me as rather sad as if their only validation is to work . . .the biggest worriers? The wealthy clients who think they don’t have enough money to retire! The more you have, the more you need. Needless to say, I don’t need much! .

  11. Nice thought Grannymar ….

    I live alone and there’s no someone special in my life that I love.

    I have my two dogs! I do give them my time. 🙂

  12. Baino ~ Sunday dinner or lunch – Whats that? It is so long since I sat to a good old fashioned Sunday Lunch, I’ve forgotten what its like.

    Paddy ~ >—-((^_^))—-<

  13. I offer echos of all the meaningful things others have already said. A fine post indeed, GrannyMar! Thanks for mentioning me.

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